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I'm sorry to hear that. May he find peace and lasting happiness. :candle:
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Since this topic I have been being very sad. Yesterday I cried seeing Dylan's pictures and old posts.
For a long time I had not heard about the death of a "close" person.
We are so busy with our sorrows and pains that we forget about the dukkha of death and separation from the loved. Dukkha dukkha.

It seems I'll need some maranasati sessions to recover myself from this.
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like a rhinoceros.
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rhinoceroshorn wrote: Tue Oct 20, 2020 10:48 pm Since this topic I have been being very sad. Yesterday I cried seeing Dylan's pictures and old posts.
For a long time I had not heard about the death of a "close" person.
We are so busy with our sorrows and pains that we forget about the dukkha of death and separation from the loved. Dukkha dukkha.

It seems I'll need some maranasati sessions to recover myself from this.
According to the SN/SA suttas, the Buddha teaches dukkha is in fact not mine, I am not dukkha, dukkha is not my self (cf. pp. 53, 58 in Choong MK The Fundamental Teachings of Early Buddhism): anicca, dukkha, and thus anatta.

Nothing is belonging to my self!

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i have a request from his mother that i don't know the answer to. can someone please help me?
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16. 'In what has the world originated?' — so said the Yakkha Hemavata, — 'with what is the world intimate? by what is the world afflicted, after having grasped at what?' (167)

17. 'In six the world has originated, O Hemavata,' — so said Bhagavat, — 'with six it is intimate, by six the world is afflicted, after having grasped at six.' (168)

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rhinoceroshorn wrote: Sun Oct 18, 2020 7:18 am He changed his Facebook picture ten days ago. He looked fine and healthy. I suspect he committed suicide? :(

I hope he is well and happy wherever he was reborn. May he have attained stream-entry or once-returner and escape this horrid samsara at some point. :heart:

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i've been informed that he did not commit suicide, but he had been struggling with addiction for years and was beginning a treatment program. i'm very confident that his immense heart and understanding of the dhamma has led him into a favorable rebirth. i'm reminded of the salt crystal sutta and also angulimala sutta. when people get on a fast track of purification their past evil deeds ripen more quickly (but with less impact). i wish someone could have been there to uplift his mind shortly before his death.

i'll admit i have lots of regret on how he and i got along several months leading up to his death. i know this is a common experience for survivors but it disturbs me how even tho we as buddhists discuss the imminence of death i still did not see it coming in such a way that i put aside meaningless disagreements. i would encourage anyone to look thru his old posts, there are some real gems there and hopefully i will go thru and find and share some of them https://dhammawheel.com/memberlist.php? ... le&u=13022
16. 'In what has the world originated?' — so said the Yakkha Hemavata, — 'with what is the world intimate? by what is the world afflicted, after having grasped at what?' (167)

17. 'In six the world has originated, O Hemavata,' — so said Bhagavat, — 'with six it is intimate, by six the world is afflicted, after having grasped at six.' (168)

- Hemavatasutta


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https://www.ancient-buddhist-texts.net/index.htm
http://thaiforestwisdom.org/canonical-texts/
http://seeingthroughthenet.net/wp-conte ... _Heart.pdf
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here is one of the most inspiring posts i read by him. it transformed my understanding of the practice of generosity then and there and later on again.
dylanj wrote: Thu Jun 07, 2018 5:49 am The kammic consequence of generosity & giving is wealth.

No one has ever nor will ever become poor from giving.

If you have debt you should give more. Even if you have just $100 you could give it all away & your debt will not be a bigger burden as a result, wealth will come to you. Through generosity your wealth will increase & you will be able to pay your debt while continuing to give & develop relinquishment.

Causality is not materialist, it is ethical. Many Buddhists fail to break out of materialism.

You should have faith that you could literally give away everything you have, all of your possessions, & the result will only be an increase of wealth, not a decrease.

anāthapiṇḍika gave away his entire fortune & sure enough he developed a whole new fortune all in one lifetime.

I have about $20,000 of debt. I give a couple hundred dollars in charity each month. Whenever anyone asks me for money I give it to them. I help support a poor Burmese friend of mine. I recently paid for the school fees of a man from Uganda who messaged me asking for money on facebook. I donated $50 to pariyatti yesterday. Overall my wealth & income is increasing. Still I could & should do more.

The thought "I do not have enough to give" is stinginess. It is not a rational conclusion based on how poverty & wealth actually manifest in the world. They are results of kamma. You will become rich if you're generous. You will become poor if you're miserly. The moment you hesitate to relinquish your wealth is the moment you should throw it all at those who deserve it. This is a radical mode of causality extremely different than what the world generally believes in but it's what the Buddha taught & you would do well to have faith in it.
he went on to say:
dylanj wrote: Wed Jun 13, 2018 9:13 pm
'''Whatever there may be in our family that can be given away, all that we will share unreservedly with the virtuous ones who are of good character.' It is in such a way that you should train yourselves. "
16. 'In what has the world originated?' — so said the Yakkha Hemavata, — 'with what is the world intimate? by what is the world afflicted, after having grasped at what?' (167)

17. 'In six the world has originated, O Hemavata,' — so said Bhagavat, — 'with six it is intimate, by six the world is afflicted, after having grasped at six.' (168)

- Hemavatasutta


links:
https://www.ancient-buddhist-texts.net/index.htm
http://thaiforestwisdom.org/canonical-texts/
http://seeingthroughthenet.net/wp-conte ... _Heart.pdf
https://www.dhammatalks.org/index.html
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salayatananirodha wrote: Wed Oct 21, 2020 3:50 am
rhinoceroshorn wrote: Sun Oct 18, 2020 7:18 am He changed his Facebook picture ten days ago. He looked fine and healthy. I suspect he committed suicide? :(

I hope he is well and happy wherever he was reborn. May he have attained stream-entry or once-returner and escape this horrid samsara at some point. :heart:

:candle:
i've been informed that he did not commit suicide, but he had been struggling with addiction for years and was beginning a treatment program. i'm very confident that his immense heart and understanding of the dhamma has led him into a favorable rebirth. i'm reminded of the salt crystal sutta and also angulimala sutta. when people get on a fast track of purification their past evil deeds ripen more quickly (but with less impact). i wish someone could have been there to uplift his mind shortly before his death.

i'll admit i have lots of regret on how he and i got along several months leading up to his death. i know this is a common experience for survivors but it disturbs me how even tho we as buddhists discuss the imminence of death i still did not see it coming in such a way that i put aside meaningless disagreements. i would encourage anyone to look thru his old posts, there are some real gems there and hopefully i will go thru and find and share some of them memberlist.php?mode=viewprofile&u=13022
Thanks for letting us know this :namaste: :namaste: :namaste:
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So young.

A great loss to dhamma communities.
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salayatananirodha wrote: Wed Oct 21, 2020 4:23 am here is one of the most inspiring posts i read by him. it transformed my understanding of the practice of generosity then and there and later on again.
dylanj wrote: Thu Jun 07, 2018 5:49 am The kammic consequence of generosity & giving is wealth....
I like this post a lot. What a magnanimous Spirit. I am sure He will be reborn in a very high place full of Buddhas and Bodhisattvas and attain his desired goal, if He hasn't already. He will by far increase in Life Strength, despite His setback with narcotics on this planet, which isn't even His fault nor was it coming from a place of lack of morality for Him, I'm sure He was a provisionally very High Buddhist despite that stuff, helping out those who didn't have a framework of Spirituality while still being caught in the mix. Also, you may see Him again on this planet if He decides to return. If you do, ask Him about His Travels.

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May he see the Buddha light!
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Greetings,

Post not befitting the Shrine Room have been moved to a new topic entitled Social Norms and the Recently Deceased.

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