Reducing lust
Reducing lust
I can't do asubha for diminishing lust because of a mental condition but I can see all women as a sister or mother which is also recommended and seeing women as impermanent and not being hyper aware of their beautiful parts. Just thought I'd share that if someone can't practice asubha.
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Re: Reducing lust
Thank you, I think that is excellent advice. It seems gentler, and avoids the pitfalls of disgust and misogyny, and is probably more effective.befriend wrote: ↑Thu Jun 25, 2020 4:26 pm I can't do asubha for diminishing lust because of a mental condition but I can see all women as a sister or mother which is also recommended and seeing women as impermanent and not being hyper aware of their beautiful parts. Just thought I'd share that if someone can't practice asubha.
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I did it today with two women and not only did I not have lust I had affinity for them instead because I think of my actual sister in high esteem.
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Re: Reducing lust
investigate non self of aggregates combo thats the only way
u will ask is lust need for any of 5 aggregates? u will laugh at ur ignorance when u dont maintain non self view
u will ask is lust need for any of 5 aggregates? u will laugh at ur ignorance when u dont maintain non self view
I may be slow learner but im at least learning...
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Glad that this work for you and I hope it'll keep working well until the final destruction, the total uprooting of lust at Anagami.befriend wrote: ↑Thu Jun 25, 2020 4:26 pm I can't do asubha for diminishing lust because of a mental condition but I can see all women as a sister or mother which is also recommended and seeing women as impermanent and not being hyper aware of their beautiful parts. Just thought I'd share that if someone can't practice asubha.
Seeing women as your relatives is just one out of 3 practices that the Buddha recommend his disciples to frequently doing to keep the holy life (brahmacariya) pure. That's is: develop perception of relatives, contemplate on 31 parts of your body, and guard your sense doors with utmost mindfulness.
https://suttacentral.net/sn35.127 wrote: “Master Bhāradvāja, there are these young monks who are youthful, black-haired, blessed with youth, in the prime of life; and they’ve never played around with sensual pleasures. What is the cause, what is the reason why they practice the full and pure spiritual life as long as they live, maintaining it for a long time?”
“Great king, this has been stated by the Blessed One, who knows and sees, the perfected one, the fully awakened Buddha:
‘Please, monks, think of women your mother’s age as your mother. Think of women your sister’s age as your sister. And think of women your daughter’s age as your daughter.’
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‘Please, monks, examine your own body up from the soles of the feet and down from the tips of the hairs, wrapped in skin and full of many kinds of filth. In this body there is head hair, body hair, nails, teeth, skin, flesh, sinews, bones, bone marrow, kidneys, heart, liver, diaphragm, spleen, lungs, intestines, mesentery, undigested food, feces, bile, phlegm, pus, blood, sweat, fat, tears, grease, saliva, snot, synovial fluid, urine.’
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‘Please, monks, live with sense doors guarded. When you see a sight with your eyes, don’t get caught up in the features and details. If the faculty of sight were left unrestrained, bad unskillful qualities of desire and aversion would become overwhelming. For this reason, practice restraint, protect the faculty of sight, and achieve its restraint. When you hear a sound with your ears … When you smell an odor with your nose … When you taste a flavor with your tongue … When you feel a touch with your body … When you know a thought with your mind, don’t get caught up in the features and details. If the faculty of mind were left unrestrained, bad unskillful qualities of desire and aversion would become overwhelming. For this reason, practice restraint, protect the faculty of mind, and achieve its restraint.’
This is also a cause, great king, this is a reason why these young monks practice the full and pure spiritual life as long as they live, maintaining it for a long time.”
"Then the Teacher, being sympathetic, and having compassion for the whole world,
said to me, “Come, monk!” That was my ordination.
Staying alone in the wilderness, meditating tirelessly,
I have completed what the Teacher taught, just as the victor advised me.
In the first watch of the night, I recollected my past lives.
In the middle watch of the night, I purified my clairvoyance.
In the last watch of the night, I shattered the mass of darkness."
- KN Thag 12.2
said to me, “Come, monk!” That was my ordination.
Staying alone in the wilderness, meditating tirelessly,
I have completed what the Teacher taught, just as the victor advised me.
In the first watch of the night, I recollected my past lives.
In the middle watch of the night, I purified my clairvoyance.
In the last watch of the night, I shattered the mass of darkness."
- KN Thag 12.2
Re: Reducing lust
What's going on in your mind when you are saying things like that? Do you believe what you are saying?confusedlayman wrote: ↑Thu Jun 25, 2020 7:10 pm investigate non self of aggregates combo thats the only way
u will ask is lust need for any of 5 aggregates? u will laugh at ur ignorance when u dont maintain non self view
Cleared. αδόξαστος.
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i dont belive but i know for myself.SteRo wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 9:48 amWhat's going on in your mind when you are saying things like that? Do you believe what you are saying?confusedlayman wrote: ↑Thu Jun 25, 2020 7:10 pm investigate non self of aggregates combo thats the only way
u will ask is lust need for any of 5 aggregates? u will laugh at ur ignorance when u dont maintain non self view
lust arise will lead to feeling ... if u think from conceit point of view u might continue lust
but if u see non self and impermanent of aggregate, when u ask which person is there in this aggregates who wants lust? u find none, which means lust also ends there
If body, perception, conciousness dont want lust similar to how ur computer dont want lust...
due to wrong view or conceit, there is arising of lust leads to feeling due to idea of someone enjoying it.. but when it is seen only as process after process, why lust for someone who dont exist?
I may be slow learner but im at least learning...
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1. you said "thats the only way" which would definitely be wrongconfusedlayman wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 1:49 pmi dont belive but i know for myself.SteRo wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 9:48 amWhat's going on in your mind when you are saying things like that? Do you believe what you are saying?confusedlayman wrote: ↑Thu Jun 25, 2020 7:10 pm investigate non self of aggregates combo thats the only way
u will ask is lust need for any of 5 aggregates? u will laugh at ur ignorance when u dont maintain non self view
lust arise will lead to feeling ... if u think from conceit point of view u might continue lust
but if u see non self and impermanent of aggregate, when u ask which person is there in this aggregates who wants lust? u find none, which means lust also ends there
If body, perception, conciousness dont want lust similar to how ur computer dont want lust...
due to wrong view or conceit, there is arising of lust leads to feeling due to idea of someone enjoying it.. but when it is seen only as process after process, why lust for someone who dont exist?
2. I don't buy that you practice successfully the way you are fabricating here.
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thats the only way means final ultimate solution.SteRo wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 1:57 pm1. you said "thats the only way" which would definitely be wrongconfusedlayman wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 1:49 pmi dont belive but i know for myself.
lust arise will lead to feeling ... if u think from conceit point of view u might continue lust
but if u see non self and impermanent of aggregate, when u ask which person is there in this aggregates who wants lust? u find none, which means lust also ends there
If body, perception, conciousness dont want lust similar to how ur computer dont want lust...
due to wrong view or conceit, there is arising of lust leads to feeling due to idea of someone enjoying it.. but when it is seen only as process after process, why lust for someone who dont exist?
2. I don't buy that you practice successfully the way you are fabricating here.
about 2nd, im successfull when i do but i dont do always but now the so called lust can be eliminated at will or can be enjoyed at will... extra freedom...
I may be slow learner but im at least learning...
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Aha, I guess what you call "extra freedom" is indulging in lust at will and when temporary satisfaction has been attained it is eliminated at will and then continue on that path.confusedlayman wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 2:11 pm ... but now the so called lust can be eliminated at will or can be enjoyed at will... extra freedom...
Cleared. αδόξαστος.
Re: Reducing lust
Seems like extra lust and after that, post nut clarity
But good luck to your strategy anyway, hopefully you'll reach anagami soon.
"Then the Teacher, being sympathetic, and having compassion for the whole world,
said to me, “Come, monk!” That was my ordination.
Staying alone in the wilderness, meditating tirelessly,
I have completed what the Teacher taught, just as the victor advised me.
In the first watch of the night, I recollected my past lives.
In the middle watch of the night, I purified my clairvoyance.
In the last watch of the night, I shattered the mass of darkness."
- KN Thag 12.2
said to me, “Come, monk!” That was my ordination.
Staying alone in the wilderness, meditating tirelessly,
I have completed what the Teacher taught, just as the victor advised me.
In the first watch of the night, I recollected my past lives.
In the middle watch of the night, I purified my clairvoyance.
In the last watch of the night, I shattered the mass of darkness."
- KN Thag 12.2
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no... it can be avoided before indulgingSteRo wrote: ↑Sat Jun 27, 2020 3:58 amAha, I guess what you call "extra freedom" is indulging in lust at will and when temporary satisfaction has been attained it is eliminated at will and then continue on that path.confusedlayman wrote: ↑Fri Jun 26, 2020 2:11 pm ... but now the so called lust can be eliminated at will or can be enjoyed at will... extra freedom...
I may be slow learner but im at least learning...
Re: Reducing lust
There is also body contemplation but not viewing it from an unattractive manner. Simply viewing it in terms of their elements, earth, water, fire, air etc. So a more neutral stance
Ajahn Achalo has a guided meditation on this via Insight Timer "Metta & investigation of the body as elements in empty space"
Ajahn Achalo has a guided meditation on this via Insight Timer "Metta & investigation of the body as elements in empty space"
Re: Reducing lust
Thank you. Also just being mindful/ having awareness helps.
Take care of mindfulness and mindfulness will take care of you.