is being a sugar daddy good kamma?

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salayatananirodha wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 7:45 pm
Sam Vara wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 7:31 pm That might be "mixed kamma"; good and bad with good and bad result. Giving in a purely disinterested way is good, but raises the question of why this particular person (rather than, say, the Sangha, where giving has most fruit) and whether a person giving in this way has some kind of motive they don't admit even to themselves.
Giving in a purely disinterested way is good
why do people say this? in the dana sutta, the highest motivation for giving is that it is 'an ornament for the mind, a support for the mind'. just one example of many that shows that it's a good thing to practice for your own welfare.
Well, there's probably a big difference between giving someone something as part of a seduction routine or because we want them to like us, and giving them something in a disinterested way and merely knowing that it's an ornament for the mind.
but yeah, i obviously want some kind of attention from someone attractive. kinda sad but
also, i fall back on the fact that giving in itself is a pure action with happy consequences
i only wish the person could have been a buddhist honestly, but maybe if we talk back and forth enough he will convert
I don't think that's sad at all! It's just the way we are. We all want and need attention, and we are (nearly!) all sexual beings who respond to beautiful people. I hope you can work out a relationship with this person that is successful and based on mutual respect, regardless of whatever else is involved. :heart:
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salayatananirodha wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 7:48 pm
confusedlayman wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 6:36 pm bad kamma... leads to lower rebirth as that action based on wrong view ...
dont people buy their husbands or wives gifts all the time? what about valentines day
Is giving a spouse a vaentines day gift good kamma?

If you enjoy giving someone presents why try to justify it by trying to make a case that it is good kamma?....why not just enjoy it and do something else for good kamma?
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Intercourse is the most straightforward/obvious sexual act, but what "sex" involves is a much wider concept than copulation.

Buddhism teaches us to acknowledge meaningful differences. For example, actions are divided into mental, verbal and physical. We are taught to stop evil at its subtlest form (thought), and if we cannot, then verbal (speech), and if we cannot, then at the physical level.

On the other hand, and as our battle is against self-deception, we avoid grey areas where evil can take the form of fake virtues:
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For most of us, the path to Nibanna is too far fetched. The alternative is to side with merit and develop harmlessness as much as we can.
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its better to give Money to people who are in need like homeless or beggars or give to highest place like monestry ... so u get good merit without doubt
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salayatananirodha wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 5:33 pm if i gave money to someone because i found him attractive, did i make good kamma?
I think no, because it would be an stupid action.

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salayatananirodha wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 5:33 pm if i gave money to someone because i found him attractive, did i make good kamma?
Being a sugar daddy, probably not. the way you describe. giving someone money or being nice because they are attractive. maybe if you werent expecting anything in return and were just treating them nicely for being attractive as many humans subconsciously and consciously do at times. Although id gather it would be less good karma than if you gave them money for a more geniune reason than trying to be nice to an attractive person.
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Sugar daddy - a rich older man who lavishes gifts on a young woman in return for her company or sexual favours .

Lust n craving appear to be unwholesome according to what Buddha taught .
Good kamma is wholesome kamma right ?!
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TRobinson465 wrote: Sat Mar 06, 2021 7:53 am
salayatananirodha wrote: Fri Feb 26, 2021 5:33 pm if i gave money to someone because i found him attractive, did i make good kamma?
Being a sugar daddy, probably not. the way you describe. giving someone money or being nice because they are attractive. maybe if you werent expecting anything in return and were just treating them nicely for being attractive as many humans subconsciously and consciously do at times. Although id gather it would be less good karma than if you gave them money for a more geniune reason than trying to be nice to an attractive person.
this and similar answers resonate most with me. after talking about this in various groups online i think it's different from typical interactions involving sensuality and money. but definitely mixed kamma
i've also been sort of embarrassed and unsure how to respond but also i had surgery this week and have been chillin
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I shouldn’t get on my feminist high horse but my answer would be a gigantic NO!!!! If you are using a young person for sex you are robbing them of their youth and the chance to form a partnership with someone similar to their age. Also you might get taken advantage of and it’s unlikely you’ll have much in common. Forgive if I’m wrong, but I do believe shallowness is something frowned upon in Buddhism.
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