Double Standards

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Ionbuddy
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Double Standards

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My mom is upset over my sister thinking about leaving the state.

She obviously doesn't want her to leave. However, she and my grandma started making fun of the idea of my sister's husband might be missing his family back where he came from.

This is a double standard, but I can't say anything without them becoming even more upset.

What way would be the most meritorious way to deal with this situation?
I still have defilements.
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retrofuturist
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Re: Double Standards

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Greetings,

My experience with people who hold double standards is that their double standards do not perturb them, and they (believe they) are content with the cognitive dissonance.

I would either keep out of this drama, or if I felt compelled to speak, maybe just point out that there's any number of reasons why people do what they do, and that if they want to know the truth, they should ask the person themselves.

Metta,
Paul. :)
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Re: Double Standards

Post by coconut »

I would ask them "what is wrong with missing one's family?"
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Post by sunnat »

Just be happy and kind.
Everyone copes with change in different ways.
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