I have just returned from a visit at Muttodaya in Germany. I have been practicing by myself for about 5 years before this, so it's my first time meeting other buddhists and meditating with them. My main practise is metta and I was sending metta to the people in the hall which was very strong at some times.
Afterwards I got the idea that some of them knew I was sending them metta by their reactions. Could this be possible?
With metta
Maarten
Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
I have no idea, but that's a beautiful thing nevertheless
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
I find that when I am particularly calm and sensitive (e.g. on retreats) I can "feel" how people are (agitated, calm, and so on). Not in a magical way, just taking the cues from their body language and tone without having to analyse it.
I've heard more than one teacher say that it's not really necessary to interview a student (me, for example). They can just watch how they walk in and tell their state of mind. Again, it's not magic.
Mike
I've heard more than one teacher say that it's not really necessary to interview a student (me, for example). They can just watch how they walk in and tell their state of mind. Again, it's not magic.
Mike
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
The point of metta practice is not that it has an affect on other people, it's that it has an affect on you.
If other people feel it then it would be because they've noticed your attitude has changed.
If other people feel it then it would be because they've noticed your attitude has changed.
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― Ajahn Chah
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Read the minds of others is easy and very natural. We just not doing it accurately.
Metta (Mettanisamsa) Sutta: Good Will
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Satti Sutta: The Spear
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Itivuttaka 22 - Metta Sutta
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Itivuttaka 27 - Mettabhavana Sutta
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Metta (Mettanisamsa) Sutta: Good Will
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
Satti Sutta: The Spear
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
Itivuttaka 22 - Metta Sutta
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Itivuttaka 27 - Mettabhavana Sutta
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
I'm not sure. Can you be certain that this is not just mind playing games?
However, I will say that Ven. Bhante Vimalaramsi says that he has felt waves of metta, sent by others, that have washed over him - just some anecdotal evidence.
However, I will say that Ven. Bhante Vimalaramsi says that he has felt waves of metta, sent by others, that have washed over him - just some anecdotal evidence.
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
There are some stories of Thai forest monks and Tibetan monks and nuns where there was an encounter with a snake or some other dangerous animal. They then sent mettā which kept the animal calm or simply made the animal leave. With a hill of dangerous ants, where the monk accidently stepped on it (I think it was Ajahn Lee), the ants actually went around him rather than attack him.
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
I remembered the Ahina Suttasamseva wrote:There are some stories of Thai forest monks and Tibetan monks and nuns where there was an encounter with a snake or some other dangerous animal. They then sent mettā which kept the animal calm or simply made the animal leave. With a hill of dangerous ants, where the monk accidently stepped on it (I think it was Ajahn Lee), the ants actually went around him rather than attack him.
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Perhaps they were picking up that you were feeling metta.Maarten wrote:Afterwards I got the idea that some of them knew I was sending them metta by their reactions. Could this be possible?
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
With respect, that is not evidence._anicca_ wrote:I'm not sure. Can you be certain that this is not just mind playing games?
However, I will say that Ven. Bhante Vimalaramsi says that he has felt waves of metta, sent by others, that have washed over him - just some anecdotal evidence.
With respect to 'feeling' metta from others - I think it's far more likely that one feels metta but it is generated within oneself but attributed to an external agent.
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in mountain clefts and chasms,
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How about the elephant Nālāgiri?
http://www.aimwell.org/DPPN/nalagiri.html
Mike
http://www.aimwell.org/DPPN/nalagiri.html
See also: https://suttacentral.net/en/ea18.5... As the elephant was about to attack the child, the Buddha spoke to him, suffusing him with all the love at his command, and, stretching out his right hand, he stroked the animal’s forehead. Thrilling with joy at the touch, Nāḷāgiri sank on his knees before the Buddha, and the Buddha taught him the Dhamma. ...
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Possibly the animal was a tragic cuddle-junky.mikenz66 wrote:How about the elephant Nālāgiri?
http://www.aimwell.org/DPPN/nalagiri.htmlSee also: https://suttacentral.net/en/ea18.5... As the elephant was about to attack the child, the Buddha spoke to him, suffusing him with all the love at his command, and, stretching out his right hand, he stroked the animal’s forehead. Thrilling with joy at the touch, Nāḷāgiri sank on his knees before the Buddha, and the Buddha taught him the Dhamma. ...
Mike
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- Cormac McCarthy, The Road
Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725
Compassionate Hands Foundation (Buddhist aid in Myanmar) • Buddhist Global Relief • UNHCR
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- Cormac McCarthy, The Road
Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725
Compassionate Hands Foundation (Buddhist aid in Myanmar) • Buddhist Global Relief • UNHCR
e: [email protected]..
Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Perhaps evidence isn't the right word as I am skeptical of this claim myself.Ben wrote:With respect, that is not evidence._anicca_ wrote:I'm not sure. Can you be certain that this is not just mind playing games?
However, I will say that Ven. Bhante Vimalaramsi says that he has felt waves of metta, sent by others, that have washed over him - just some anecdotal evidence.
With respect to 'feeling' metta from others - I think it's far more likely that one feels metta but it is generated within oneself but attributed to an external agent.
"A virtuous monk, Kotthita my friend, should attend in an appropriate way to the five clinging-aggregates as inconstant, stressful, a disease, a cancer, an arrow, painful, an affliction, alien, a dissolution, an emptiness, not-self."
http://vipassanameditation.asia
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Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Yes, this at least must have been the case. After the talk there was this old Lady just standing there smiling at me, almost like she is saying she knew. And as stated before, this Lady must have been very sensitive, and probably a very good meditator to be able to pick this up. As I don't think she had even seen me before.Spiny Norman wrote:Perhaps they were picking up that you were feeling metta.Maarten wrote:Afterwards I got the idea that some of them knew I was sending them metta by their reactions. Could this be possible?
'Suppose there were a beetle, a dung-eater, full of dung, gorged with dung, with a huge pile of dung in front of him. He, because of that, would look down on other beetles: 'Yes, sirree! I am a dung-eater, full of dung, gorged with dung, with a huge pile of dung in front of me!' - SN 17.5
Re: Can you feel it when someone sends you metta?
Yes it is a beautiful idea. Maybe it would be wholesome to believe they can feel it, even if this may not be true? It would motivate the practise because you would be doing something more that just cultivating a mindstate, you would feel like you were actually making people happy.ryanM wrote:I have no idea, but that's a beautiful thing nevertheless
'Suppose there were a beetle, a dung-eater, full of dung, gorged with dung, with a huge pile of dung in front of him. He, because of that, would look down on other beetles: 'Yes, sirree! I am a dung-eater, full of dung, gorged with dung, with a huge pile of dung in front of me!' - SN 17.5