Looks like you will never understand.
Good luck. Can't help for now.
Let me correct this wrong approach.
The solution is transcendence but first you have to really wallow in the mud
This is a wrong approach. You don't need to be wallowed in the mud to see the solution. The mud will lead you to birth, sick, oldage and death, why would one need to experience it again? That will be silly.
Buddha has announced the problem & path, one just needs to understand the problem and follow the exact path. The path is a shortcut to Nibbana if you follow the correct path, N8FP.
So, the path is to
give up all things/behaviors that lead to birth, sick, oldage and death.
Btw, Hopefully your life is not full of suffering.
As Buddha said in
DN 9, MN 13:
DN 9 wrote:
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I teach the Dhamma for the giving up of these three kinds of existences:
‘When you practice accordingly, corrupting qualities will be given up in you and cleansing qualities will grow. You’ll enter and remain in the fullness and abundance of wisdom, having realized it with your own insight in this very life.’
Poṭṭhapāda, you might think: ‘Corrupting qualities will be given up and cleansing qualities will grow. One will enter and remain in the fullness and abundance of wisdom, having realized it with one’s own insight in this very life. But such a life is suffering.’
But you should not see it like this.
Corrupting qualities will be given up and cleansing qualities will grow. One will enter and remain in the fullness and abundance of wisdom, having realized it with one’s own insight in this very life. And there will be only joy and happiness, tranquility, mindfulness and awareness. Such a life is blissful.
Looks like most/majority people see it that life is suffering.
Which is wrong way of thinking according to Buddha in
DN 9. Or maybe they haven't reached the path.
MN 13 wrote:
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But I am capable of experiencing perfect happiness for one day and night without moving my body or speaking. I am capable of experiencing perfect happiness for two days … three days … four days … five days … six days … seven days. What do you think, reverends? This being so, who lives in greater pleasure, King Bimbisāra or I?’
‘This being so, Venerable Gotama lives in greater pleasure than King Bimbisāra.’”
But if one reach samadhi, One will always happy inwardly. There is no desires, no asavas.
So, if someone say there is no solution, he/she is not Buddha's disciple. He is a puthujjana for sure.