i have a craving for a woman at the gym

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bpallister wrote: Sun Oct 16, 2022 11:21 pm I now have a craving for a co-worker as well. my cravings are multiplying and not decreasing. :anjali:
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Soon death.

If you have lust for these ugly things then the perception of unattractiveness has not been established and a perversion of view has taken hold.

It would be good if dwelling quite secluded you would establish the perception of unattractiveness.
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cappuccino wrote: Tue Oct 18, 2022 8:17 pm
bpallister wrote: Sun Oct 16, 2022 11:21 pm I now have a craving for a co-worker as well. my cravings are multiplying and not decreasing. :anjali:
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My co-worker does not want to go out with me, although she still wants to talk to me. i said no thanks.
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We have cravings, this is the norm. And the normal solution to that is to have a partner and help each other satisfy them.

In addition to this, if you practice the Dhamma and grow in wholesome qualities, mindfulness, self-control and insight, cravings will decrease until one is ready to abandon them altogether.

Here it seems people sometimes going about this backwards. They are full of cravings and low on wholesome qualities, mindfulness and insight. Instead of taking the sensible path, they choose the ego-driven pursuit of trying to squash their cravings and run around in circles.
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my gym crush has been absent for about a week. i'm wondering where she went. any theories?
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bpallister wrote: Sat Jan 21, 2023 2:58 am my gym crush has been absent for about a week. i'm wondering where she went. any theories?
Maybe she was creeped out by you and left to get away from you. I'm creeped out by this thread, and I'm a dude just reading your comments on an internet forum.
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Perhaps. I will take her absence as a blessing.
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bpallister wrote: Sat Jan 21, 2023 3:24 am Perhaps. I will take her absence as a blessing.
what if you never end up with a girl
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He could end up with a guy. That would be just as healthy. Tomorrow never knows! There's someone for everyone. There's gotta be. :toast: :juggling: :heart:
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Mahabrahma wrote: Tue Jan 31, 2023 12:03 am There's someone for everyone. There's gotta be.
Unless you let that person go
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cappuccino wrote: Mon Jan 30, 2023 11:54 pm
bpallister wrote: Sat Jan 21, 2023 3:24 am Perhaps. I will take her absence as a blessing.
what if you never end up with a girl
i will have to more fervently seek Nibbana :anjali:
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she was there tonight, friends. i caught her looking at me a couple of times. maybe because she was scared. it was crowded and loud in there. i'm gonna try to talk to her soon.
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bpallister wrote: Wed Feb 01, 2023 12:24 am more fervently seek Nibbana
It’s a good alternative
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:spy: <----- this is you at the gym.

Just be kind and talk to her, don't attach yourself, and maybe treat her to some Buddhism you know. After all you could save her from the Saha World, or maybe she can save you in the Spiritual Tradition she follows. True Love. What a guy...
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