How to stop porn addiction?

[Jim_Smith]

How to stop porn addiction?

How does being addicted to porn influence your self image?

Do you feel that way all the time or just some of the time.

Try to notice how your self image changes over time, in unrelated ways, during work, or school, with family, during recreation, while driving, while walking, doing chores, etc.

If your self image is changing constantly what is the basis for attachments to the self? If there are so many selves, which self are the attachments to?

If you look closely you might notice a different self in each distinct moment of consciousness. In that case, who is addicted to porn?

[cappuccino]

who is addicted to porn?

Most people

[Tl21G3lVl]

A distorted sense of values will often lead us through the wrong path. Reflect on the Maha-mangala Sutta for restoring a sound mind.

I have heard that at one time the Blessed One was staying in Savatthi at Jeta's Grove, Anathapindika's monastery. Then a certain deva, in the far extreme of the night, her extreme radiance lighting up the entirety of Jeta's Grove, approached the Blessed One. On approaching, having bowed down to the Blessed One, she stood to one side. As she stood to one side, she addressed him with a verse.


Many devas and human beings
give thought to protection,
desiring well-being.
Tell, then, the highest protection.
The Buddha:
Not consorting with fools,
consorting with the wise,
paying homage to those worthy of homage:
This is the highest protection.

Living in a civilized land,
having made merit in the past,
directing oneself rightly:
This is the highest protection.

Broad knowledge, skill,
well-mastered discipline,
well-spoken words:
This is the highest protection.

Support for one's parents,
assistance to one's wife and children,
consistency in one's work:
This is the highest protection.

Giving, living in rectitude,
assistance to one's relatives,
deeds that are blameless:
This is the highest protection.

Avoiding, abstaining from evil;
refraining from intoxicants,
being heedful of the qualities of the mind:
This is the highest protection.

Respect, humility,
contentment, gratitude,
hearing the Dhamma on timely occasions:
This is the highest protection.

Patience, compliance,
seeing contemplatives,
discussing the Dhamma on timely occasions:
This is the highest protection.

Austerity, celibacy,
seeing the Noble Truths,
realizing Unbinding:
This is the highest protection.

A mind that, when touched
by the ways of the world,
is unshaken, sorrowless, dustless, at rest:
This is the highest protection.

Everywhere undefeated
when acting in this way,
people go everywhere in well-being:
This is their highest protection.

[rekoW]

Re: How to stop porn addiction?

Did you have a good mother? You should think about your mother to create right image of woman. Addict-fiction to pornoogrpahy is because there is false sextual objectifixation to woman. You think about your mother to have right image of woman life & woman purpose. Love of pornogrification is "misogyny". Don't get Woke Attacked, get brainwashed that pornogrification is "womans rights & freedom". Pornogrification is "misogyny" & "abusiveness".

[Ceisiwr]

How to stop porn addiction?

Did you try watching porn mindfully (being aware of what you are doing as you are doing it, or noticing your thoughts, emotions, impulses, sensations, self-concepts/feelings of identity)?

If you do that, you will learn from it, get something useful from it, even if you think it is bad. And when you observe your mind and body you will learn the subtleties of why you do what you do and that gives you more freedom of choice.

If you find something you like and can do it mindfully that can be the most fruitful practice because you will do a lot of it.

That isn't great advice. Sense restraint is not following pleasing signs, rather than following them and the being mindful.

[Pondera]

Every time you masturbate you expel semen and create a deficit in your testes which the body recognizes and responds to by funneling whatever available testosterone you have into the process of filling that deficit.

Every time you restrain your self from spilling your juice, your body delegates other uses for the limited amount of testosterone in your body. It is used for muscle growth, bone growth, pheromone production.

Essentially, if you masturbate you are directly diminishing your chances of meeting an actual woman.

I look back eight years ago on the pathetic loser I was - glued to a screen of naked women while I pleasured my self with my own hand. What a joke.

Get a real partner or don’t do it at all.

PS. It gets easier to stop as you get older

[auto]

Every time you masturbate you expel semen and create a deficit in your testes which the body recognizes and responds to by funneling whatever available testosterone you have into the process of filling that deficit.

semen outflow can be stopped. But since you can't do it yourself then you keep on talking about the above view..

Every time you restrain your self from spilling your juice, your body delegates other uses for the limited amount of testosterone in your body. It is used for muscle growth, bone growth, pheromone production.

here you mention 'every time you restrain yourself from spilling..' - you mean not-masturbating. But i could understand it that i can still masturbate and restrain spilling the semen.

[justindesilva]

Every time you masturbate you expel semen and create a deficit in your testes which the body recognizes and responds to by funneling whatever available testosterone you have into the process of filling that deficit.

Every time you restrain your self from spilling your juice, your body delegates other uses for the limited amount of testosterone in your body. It is used for muscle growth, bone growth, pheromone production.

Essentially, if you masturbate you are directly diminishing your chances of meeting an actual woman.

I look back eight years ago on the pathetic loser I was - glued to a screen of naked women while I pleasured my self with my own hand. What a joke.

Get a real partner or don’t do it at all.

PS. It gets easier to stop as you get older

Teenagers need not masterbate often , because spilling of seemen happens in dreams. As the urge for sex vanishes people start masterbating with what an effort.
Old people like me has no such urge . Can do away with proper meditation.

[confusedlayman]

Im in mid 20s and im celibate.. but i have urge .. whatever happens even heart explodes.. i still dont want intercourse... it pains my pe*nus

[bpallister]

Every time you masturbate you expel semen and create a deficit in your testes which the body recognizes and responds to by funneling whatever available testosterone you have into the process of filling that deficit.

Every time you restrain your self from spilling your juice, your body delegates other uses for the limited amount of testosterone in your body. It is used for muscle growth, bone growth, pheromone production.

Essentially, if you masturbate you are directly diminishing your chances of meeting an actual woman.

I look back eight years ago on the pathetic loser I was - glued to a screen of naked women while I pleasured my self with my own hand. What a joke.

Get a real partner or don’t do it at all.

PS. It gets easier to stop as you get older

what if you inject exogenous testosterone?

[Bhikkhu Pesala]

Just cut it off.

A certain monk was tormented by lustful thoughts. He cut off his penis. The infamous group of six nuns saw his penis lying by the side of the road and laughed about it. The news got back to the Buddha who said: “He cut off one thing, when he should have cut off another.”

[dhammapal]

Start by abstaining one day every week on Uposatha Observance Days (Full Moon, New Moon, Half Moon).

[iddhi]

As with everything else in buddhism, you extinguish the craving. Following satipatthana, you could watch your porn but focus on some neutral aspect of it, eg, the back of someone's head, an article of clothing in the scene, a piece of furniture. Or watching the action in a way that you do not get caught up in it. Remember the satipatthana formula: focus on the object in and of itself, ardent, remembering, clearly comprehending, putting aside desire for and discontent with worldly things. If you can do this, the passion will fade away. I'm not saying it is easy, it is just the way of buddhism.

[StrivingforMonkhood]

Im in mid 20s and im celibate.. but i have urge .. whatever happens even heart explodes.. i still dont want intercourse... it pains my pe*nus

Sex is ultimately silly and empty, like all worldly pleasures. It's not that it's terrible or bad, when it's consensual, unless it's with a married person. But, ultimately, even sex in a committed relationship is ultimately delusional (again, not immoral, though)

I am happy for you that you see this reality rather clearly at your young age.

[dhammapal]

Use medical terminology for parts of the female anatomy e.g. mammary glands.