What's a separate issue...that I don't feel guilty or that I can't meditate and lost my attainments?SDC wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 5:51 pmThat’s a separate issue. There is always a chance that the mind will turn against what is preferred, and in your case, that could be a for a number of different reasons. The only constant that you’ve expressed is the grief and anxiety that has been present since her death, but that does not imply all these things are related.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 5:39 pm Right, I hear what you're saying. From a psychological standpoint I can't really fathom it. Even if there was volition, I didn't think efforts were being made to carry out the deed. Mentally I feel innocent but still can't meditate and I lost my attainments.
Can you work off anantarika karma?
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
What I meant was that the loss of your attainments and ability to meditate is not any sort of proof of your responsibility for her death.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 9:58 pmWhat's a separate issue...that I don't feel guilty or that I can't meditate and lost my attainments?SDC wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 5:51 pmThat’s a separate issue. There is always a chance that the mind will turn against what is preferred, and in your case, that could be a for a number of different reasons. The only constant that you’ve expressed is the grief and anxiety that has been present since her death, but that does not imply all these things are related.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 5:39 pm Right, I hear what you're saying. From a psychological standpoint I can't really fathom it. Even if there was volition, I didn't think efforts were being made to carry out the deed. Mentally I feel innocent but still can't meditate and I lost my attainments.
“Life is swept along, short is the life span; no shelters exist for one who has reached old age. Seeing clearly this danger in death, a seeker of peace should drop the world’s bait.” SN 1.3
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
Really? Howso?SDC wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 10:14 pmWhat I meant was that the loss of your attainments and ability to meditate is not any sort of proof of your responsibility for her death.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 9:58 pmWhat's a separate issue...that I don't feel guilty or that I can't meditate and lost my attainments?SDC wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 5:51 pm
That’s a separate issue. There is always a chance that the mind will turn against what is preferred, and in your case, that could be a for a number of different reasons. The only constant that you’ve expressed is the grief and anxiety that has been present since her death, but that does not imply all these things are related.
Breaking refuge vows
If a person takes refuge and then kills, is the karma worse because they had taken refuge and broke vows?
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Re: Breaking refuge vows
First off, there are no vows in going for refuge.
You're driving yourself nuts by speculating about kamma. How about just understanding killing is wrong? Why complicate this so much and ask so many marginally different variations of the same question?
You're driving yourself nuts by speculating about kamma. How about just understanding killing is wrong? Why complicate this so much and ask so many marginally different variations of the same question?
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
Just curious, why you think it is proof?
“Life is swept along, short is the life span; no shelters exist for one who has reached old age. Seeing clearly this danger in death, a seeker of peace should drop the world’s bait.” SN 1.3
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Re: Malevolent acts of mind
Adam, Things just happen. People die. There is suffering. Meditation has its ebbs and flows. Ones practices fall apart. They get better. It comes and goes. There's no need to have psychic powers, or find out the magical mathematical formula for karma to have these things happen. Its life. Its very difficult to deal with sometimes, and we risk getting to a place of driving ourselves insane by trying to make sense of it all via scrupulosity. The Buddha's message is another, more compassionate and grounded path.
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
Well it was the timing. It's not as though I kept my attainments for months and months after my mom died. The karma seemed to ripen immediately. And anantarika karma would seem to be the only karma with the strength to do THAT. Milarepa, the Tibetan yogi, killed a bunch of people with black magic. Angullimala killed 999 people. They both reached enlightenment. But I can't even meditate and I lost my attainments immediately...
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
What do you mean by immediately? How long after you were informed of her death?Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:29 pmWell it was the timing. It's not as though I kept my attainments for months and months after my mom died. The karma seemed to ripen immediately. And anantarika karma would seem to be the only karma with the strength to do THAT. Milarepa, the Tibetan yogi, killed a bunch of people with black magic. Angullimala killed 999 people. They both reached enlightenment. But I can't even meditate and I lost my attainments immediately...
“Life is swept along, short is the life span; no shelters exist for one who has reached old age. Seeing clearly this danger in death, a seeker of peace should drop the world’s bait.” SN 1.3
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
The day she died, it was in the back of my mind that I may have caused it, but nothing happened. Probably like a couple days later is when it all started happening.SDC wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:32 pmWhat do you mean by immediately? How long after you were informed of her death?Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:29 pmWell it was the timing. It's not as though I kept my attainments for months and months after my mom died. The karma seemed to ripen immediately. And anantarika karma would seem to be the only karma with the strength to do THAT. Milarepa, the Tibetan yogi, killed a bunch of people with black magic. Angullimala killed 999 people. They both reached enlightenment. But I can't even meditate and I lost my attainments immediately...
Re: Malevolent acts of mind
You don’t think it was the shock of her death combined with your belief of the possibility of causing it is the reason you’re so distraught? What I mean is you 1) lost your mother and 2) believe it was your fault. That’s traumatic. You have no proof it was your fault, but since you think it “might” be, that causing deep trauma. That is not a coincidence. These things are directly related because you have made the decision to believe you had these powers. You cannot prove - even to yourself - that you ever had any powers to begin with, so it is very likely you are traumatized and unable to keep living your previous lifestyle, and now you are panicking looking for a reason. But it seems very likely that you are pushing your theory way too far.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:35 pmThe day she died, it was in the back of my mind that I may have caused it, but nothing happened. Probably like a couple days later is when it all started happening.SDC wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:32 pmWhat do you mean by immediately? How long after you were informed of her death?Adam1234 wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:29 pm
Well it was the timing. It's not as though I kept my attainments for months and months after my mom died. The karma seemed to ripen immediately. And anantarika karma would seem to be the only karma with the strength to do THAT. Milarepa, the Tibetan yogi, killed a bunch of people with black magic. Angullimala killed 999 people. They both reached enlightenment. But I can't even meditate and I lost my attainments immediately...
Like I said a few months ago, if you cannot admit to yourself that it is very possible you didn’t have these powers, than your loss of the ability to meditate is simply because you feel guilt for something you could not have done. If you let that sink in it might be difficult. You’ll have to come to terms with the fact that your attainments weren’t there, but at least you can realize you don’t own the burden of her death and never could have to begin with.
Your burden is not these powers. Your burden is the pressure to keep believing every detail of this situation. You’ve been willing to admit that it possible that this was not your fault. Now you need to take it a step further and accept the possibility that it could never have been to begin with.
“Life is swept along, short is the life span; no shelters exist for one who has reached old age. Seeing clearly this danger in death, a seeker of peace should drop the world’s bait.” SN 1.3
Re: Breaking refuge vows
You take refuge in Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha.
You resolve yourself not to break the precepts.
According to Buddhism breaking precepts without knowledge is worse than breaking them knowing it.
“As the lamp consumes oil, the path realises Nibbana”
Re: Breaking refuge vows
Sorry if you think I'm a nuisance. You don't have to answer my questions.dharmacorps wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:16 pm First off, there are no vows in going for refuge.
You're driving yourself nuts by speculating about kamma. How about just understanding killing is wrong? Why complicate this so much and ask so many marginally different variations of the same question?
Re: Breaking refuge vows
Agree.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Tue Jan 10, 2023 12:25 amSorry if you think I'm a nuisance. You don't have to answer my questions.dharmacorps wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:16 pm First off, there are no vows in going for refuge.
You're driving yourself nuts by speculating about kamma. How about just understanding killing is wrong? Why complicate this so much and ask so many marginally different variations of the same question?
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“As the lamp consumes oil, the path realises Nibbana”
Re: Breaking refuge vows
Although good householder "knows" the precepts, he might not be aware that suggesting killing, or hint that others lose, e.g. call the police, is very bad kamma, and by using voice, words, breaks already the precepts. good householder. (it's usual here to kill also right as well: very heavy kamma and cutting off from refuge)SarathW wrote: ↑Tue Jan 10, 2023 2:46 amAgree.Adam1234 wrote: ↑Tue Jan 10, 2023 12:25 amSorry if you think I'm a nuisance. You don't have to answer my questions.dharmacorps wrote: ↑Mon Jan 09, 2023 11:16 pm First off, there are no vows in going for refuge.
You're driving yourself nuts by speculating about kamma. How about just understanding killing is wrong? Why complicate this so much and ask so many marginally different variations of the same question?
There is a reporting function to alert moderators.
As for the OP, naturally it's impossible without first losing refuge, that one does even things against the good conducts.
So renewing the refuge, asking for pardon, confessing wrong doing, is very needed, otherwise one relays just on wrong view and his refuge is nothing but own ideas and perceptions, yet not the Gems.
Generally less have, even if thinking so, ever taken refuge or ways to renew it, nor have they ever proper taken the precepts, as both requires to meet the Gems very personal, recognize them.
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