Yes I am from Sri Lanka.
It is not primitive, but it is full of Buddhist who don't know Buddhism unfortunately.
So it is sort of primitive I suppose.
We still have lot of primitive discriminations such as color discrimination.
Yes I am from Sri Lanka.
SarathW wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:23 amIt is great that you are going to be a good man.Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:18 amYeah i already worked and my goal is to become a better father than my mom dead husband. Dont worry. The problem is he above average rich and in the end my mom struggling to raise me, cmon now, i dont need him helping in my life, but at least responsible to your own wife?
She took care of him in the deathbed, looking back i wish i was the one that unplug the life support cable
If you have lot of hatred in you (even for your enemy) you can't be a that great man but you will end up like your dad at the end.
Extend Metta to your dad. We all have problems.
May be your father had a problem only he knew what it was. May be your grand dad mistreated him.
No, you are an asshole, not him.Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:46 am My father is an asshole, he’s a rich man but he didnt write any will and we didn’t get most money.
Oh look another guy who read the first sentence and knows it all. Nice thanks to you all my problems is solved, you want to solve world hunger next?nothingworthgrasping wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 6:00 amNo, you are an asshole, not him.Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:46 am My father is an asshole, he’s a rich man but he didnt write any will and we didn’t get most money.
Whether he's poor or rich, it's non of your business. Don't be delusional enough to feel entitle for his wealth. Be your own man, stay upright, work hard and support your mother with your own effort, sweats, tears, and blood.
https://www.budsas.org/ebud/ebdha229.htmAccording to the Sigalovada Sutta, which deals with the code of conduct for the laity, there are five duties to be performed by parents towards their children. These are:
1. The parents should dissuade their children from doing evil. Parents are the first school for their children, where they learn their elementary lessons in good and evil. Therefore, parents should be very careful to steer their children away from all kinds of evil, such as lying, cheating, dishonesty, revenge and so on.
"In five ways, young householder, a child should minister to his parents as the East:
(i) Having supported me I shall support them,
(ii) I shall do their duties,
(iii) I shall keep the family tradition,
(iv) I shall make myself worthy of my inheritance,
(v) furthermore I shall offer alms in honor of my departed
relatives.[9]
"In five ways, young householder, the parents thus ministered to as the East by their children, show their compassion:
(i) they restrain them from evil,
(ii) they encourage them to do good,
(iii) they train them for a profession,
(iv) they arrange a suitable marriage,
(v) at the proper time they hand over their inheritance to them.
befriend wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:09 pm From a Buddhist perspective you don't have to wish I'll on anyone. Your father was a miser or stingy, if he did more bad things of mind body and speech then good things he will be reborn in a woeful plane. Your anger is justified its a natural emotion, but it needs to be quelled you can think of the sutta called removal of distracting thoughts. My grandfather was a bad person and my father is a very good person he decided to be nothing like my grandfather. If not thinking about your father quells your anger do that no need to radiate kindness to him. My father hated someone and he chose to stop thinking about them, don't let them enter your mind.
" One should not consider the faults of others, nor their doing or not doing good or bad deeds. One should consider only whether one has done or not done good or bad deeds."
Verse 50
and you may contemplate on this one and you may seek for a wise companion:" It is easy to see the faults of others, but difficult to see one's own. A man broadcasts the fault; of others like winnowing chaff in the wind, but hides his own faults as a crafty fowler covers himself."
Verse 252
" One should follow a man of wisdom who rebukes one for one's faults, as one would follow a guide to some buried treasure. To one who follows such a wise man, it will be an advantage and not a disadvantage."
Verse 76
I don't get this. If he didn't write a will, then by default it would go first to his wife, then to his children. The exact details depend on the jurisdiction, but the general principle is the same. Possibly it all went to his wife (your mother?).Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:46 am ...he’s a rich man but he didnt write any will and we didn’t get most money.