My father is an asshole, he’s a rich man but he didnt write any will and we didn’t get most money. He never teach mom about investing those money and she put in some suspicious investment which end costly. My dad is a prick and he left my mom suffering and strugling in her old days.
I’m not letting off the hook that easy just because he died.
This hatred will live on, i will pass this hatred to my newborn son and told him that he could live a better life if not because of his useless granddad.
I hate him with all my life, sometimes i wish I’m the one that killed him. It’s been 6 years i havent go to his grave, I’m afraid if i go there i will just spit on it. Everytime i pray in the temple, i never once said his name. He’s dead but my hatred lives on
I wish I told my father i hate him before he died
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Re: I wish I told my father i hate him before he died
Why can't make your own wealth and pass it on to your son?
There is no obligation for your father to pass his wealth to you except look-after you until you are legally an adult.
There is no obligation for your father to pass his wealth to you except look-after you until you are legally an adult.
“As the lamp consumes oil, the path realises Nibbana”
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Did he not give you your body and or take care of you when you was a baby like a cripple, unable to walk or talk? That doesn't count for you?
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Many western country have law for children to contest & automcatically obtain proportion of Will. May be this law not exist in prmitive 2nd & 3rd world bankrupt country of supersticios people.
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Money management is not easy for everyone and family relations are complicated... I don't have any friends who have successfully inhereted money, in my mid 30s, everybody does their own thing.
I've seen plenty of people mismanage money, doesn't necessarily mean they are all bad..
I've seen plenty of people mismanage money, doesn't necessarily mean they are all bad..
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He must have been an asshole if u heat him so much. If he was real asshole then he was. If so, not need to hate. Asshoel is asshloe. Each time u go to toilet do u hate your asshoel? If no, don't need to hate father asshole.Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:46 am My father is an asshole... He’s dead but my hatred lives on
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Lmao i literally told you its abou my mom who struggling to raise me, i already work my ass off , dont you worry, i even study investing lesson and teach my wife about money. Not like that deadbeat asshole who literally using death as excuse to escape from his responsibility lol
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In Western countries you can write your wealth to anyone you wish.
However if you are disable, I believe you can contest it.
Bankrupt Sri Lanka? Don't start this topic with me.
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Either way hatred is not good, one should be ashamed of it, it is particularly shameless to display one's bad qualities such as anger to parents, it's a disappointment to them and a sad thing to wit having been involved in creating that animosity which is now like a cancer assailing them with unpleasant speech and destroying their offspring. It's a testament to everyone's failure.
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Yeah i already worked and my goal is to become a better father than my mom dead husband. Dont worry. The problem is he above average rich and in the end my mom struggling to raise me, cmon now, i dont need him helping in my life, but at least responsible to your own wife?
She took care of him in the deathbed, looking back i wish i was the one that unplug the life support cable
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I don't believe there is automatic entitlement.
Yes you can contest it.
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Now the only one for me to stop the hatred is let go, basically accepting that he was not my father. He was just a faceless stranger in the crowd of human sea that body I used to come to his world. He doesn’t own me a thing, and I don’t owe him anything. No need to remember face, or name. No need to acknowledge or pray to him. Thats when my anger stop, literally can’t even think about him. No good memory, or maybe the anger blocks all of it idkUser13866 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:16 am Either way hatred is not good, one should be ashamed of it, it is particularly shameless to display one's bad qualities such as anger to parents, it's a disappointment to them and a sad thing to wit having been involved in creating that animosity which is now like a cancer attacking oneself. It's a testament to everyone's failure.
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It is great that you are going to be a good man.Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:18 amYeah i already worked and my goal is to become a better father than my mom dead husband. Dont worry. The problem is he above average rich and in the end my mom struggling to raise me, cmon now, i dont need him helping in my life, but at least responsible to your own wife?
She took care of him in the deathbed, looking back i wish i was the one that unplug the life support cable
If you have lot of hatred in you (even for your enemy) you can't be a that great man but you will end up like your dad at the end.
Extend Metta to your dad. We all have problems.
May be your father had a problem only he knew what it was. May be your grand dad mistreated him.
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True i dont hate my asshole, but i hate my dead father.rekoW wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:13 amHe must have been an asshole if u heat him so much. If he was real asshole then he was. If so, not need to hate. Asshoel is asshloe. Each time u go to toilet do u hate your asshoel? If no, don't need to hate father asshole.Canonmp280 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:46 am My father is an asshole... He’s dead but my hatred lives on
So he is worse than asshole, thanks for the light