i have a craving for a woman at the gym

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i have a craving for a woman at the gym

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what should i do, friends? :anjali:
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Are you celibate? If yes, ignore her.

If not, talk to her, but not while she’s working out. Most women don’t appreciate that.
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i am an incel. i call her my gym wife. her eyes are like two emeralds :heart:
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bpallister wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:44 pm i am an incel. i call her my gym wife. her eyes are like two emeralds :heart:
I thought you were going to change from involuntary to voluntary.
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SDC wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:56 pm
bpallister wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:44 pm i am an incel. i call her my gym wife. her eyes are like two emeralds :heart:
I thought you were going to change from involuntary to voluntary.
one more rejection and i'm there! :)
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bpallister wrote: Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:00 am
SDC wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:56 pm
bpallister wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:44 pm i am an incel. i call her my gym wife. her eyes are like two emeralds :heart:
I thought you were going to change from involuntary to voluntary.
one more rejection and i'm there! :)
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SDC wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:43 pm Are you celibate? If yes, ignore her.

If not, talk to her, but not while she’s working out. Most women don’t appreciate that.
No. I have done that before, but I talked to her when she was on the elliptical machine. This way she will stay there when you talked to her.
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form wrote: Wed Sep 07, 2022 1:00 am
SDC wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:43 pm Are you celibate? If yes, ignore her.

If not, talk to her, but not while she’s working out. Most women don’t appreciate that.
No. I have done that before, but I talked to her when she was on the elliptical machine. This way she will stay there when you talked to her.
:rofl:
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bpallister wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:19 pm what should i do, friends? :anjali:
What everyone else does: deal with it.

People see attractive people on the streets every day, at the gym every day, etc., and they just move on. It's like lusting over a fancy car you can't afford. Maybe you can afford the car. Say "Hi." If she doesn't show any interest, move on, and try not to accidentally leer at her when she's doing something attractive at the gym.
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bpallister wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:19 pm what should i do, friends? :anjali:
Contemplate on Anicca, Dukkha and Anatta

Read Vitakka Santana Sutta
https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/aut ... el021.html

Or there are plenty dating advise in Youtube.
We all are expert in giving advice.
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Coëmgenu wrote: Wed Sep 07, 2022 1:12 am
What everyone else does: deal with it.
:clap: Well said.

The OP is creating a problem for himself by framing it this way. It will always be a problem if you approach it like this.
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bpallister wrote: Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:19 pm what should i do, friends? :anjali:
nothing is always easy
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pegembara wrote: Wed Sep 07, 2022 1:01 am

:rofl:
Have anyone seen the hidden Mara?

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bpallister wrote: Wed Sep 07, 2022 1:52 am should i tie her to it with some resistance bands, or would that be too forward? :stirthepot:
Treat her in a way that won’t make you feel ashamed later on that day. That is the best gauge for whether or not you have been decent to another: how you feel later in the night when you are alone, sober and trying to fall asleep.

All in all, Coemgenu gave the best advice in this thread.
“Life is swept along, short is the life span; no shelters exist for one who has reached old age. Seeing clearly this danger in death, a seeker of peace should drop the world’s bait.” SN 1.3
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